No Such Thing As Elements of Provocation!

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Domestic Violence Wheel of Control {He said that while men “have no business putting your hands on a woman,” he had tried to tell women in his family, “Let’s make sure we don’t do anything to provoke wrong actions.” He also referred to “elements of provocation” and implied that women should “do what we can to try to prevent the situation from happening.”During his apology on Monday morning, Smith acknowledged that “my words came across that it is somehow a woman’s fault.”via ESPN suspends Stephen A. Smith for one week – Jul. 29, 2014.}

As the result of a violent attack on me a couple of years ago, I have become a warrior to stomp out violence against women. I have started petitions, shared my story, and joined others crusading against this crime that affects us all. So, I was appalled to read that sportscaster Stephen A. Smith, who I once respected, said such a heinous thing about why women get attacked by men. Nothing a woman says or does warrants such violence! EVER! There is NO SUCH THING AS ELEMENTS OF PROVOCATION! If he or any man believes this, I pray for the women in their lives because they are all in danger. The Wheel of Power and Control list all the ways men manipulate and abuse women and it is behavior often passed down from the home environment. Don’t get me wrong, men get abused as well but the majority of violence is perpetrated against women. The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) list domestic violence as a public health issue. On average 24 people per minute are victims of violence ranging from rape, physical violence, or stalking by an intimate partner in the United States, based on a survey conducted in 2010. This has to stop! People in any position of power or in the public eye should know better than to cultivate this culture of violence. Unfortunately, in recent years, we have seen an increase in misogynistic attitudes from our leaders and some of those attitudes have been shockingly applauded by women. These attitudes have resulted in a “war on women” that covers everything from reproductive issues to the almost non-renewal of the Violence Against Women Act. We have to take a stand, women and men alike, against this public health crisis. It’s effects are far-reaching all over the world in the form of human trafficking, female genital mutilation, and gender specific abortions. I feel in addition to Stephen A. Smith’s one week suspension, he should be required to volunteer in a battered woman’s shelter or attend support meetings to learn about domestic violence. He claims his statement came out wrong. I do not believe that. He needs to get counseling to discover why his statement “came out wrong.”  Until he takes steps to understand the manipulation, misogyny, anger, and passive aggressive behaviors behind the violence, his apology is hollow.


Russian MP angers rights group by proposing law giving women two paid days off a month when they are on their period | Mail Online

Russian MP accused of sexism for proposing law giving women two paid days off a month when they are on their period

via Russian MP angers rights group by proposing law giving women two paid days off a month when they are on their period | Mail Online.

I am laughing so hard right now! It appears the Russian Parliament is trying to not appear misogynistic but it may have backfired! Can you imagine what would happen if the same thing was proposed over here? Sometimes I think men may be right about the wishy-washy nature of some women. Not all, just some! I suffer from Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome – Fibroid and I would LOVE to be able to take paid leave aside from regular vacation and sick days to handle my period! I am just shaking head at this nonsense! The Russian MP Mikhail Degtyaryov, who made the proposal, recognizes that women do suffer psychological and physiological discomfort during that time and it can hinder work performance. I applaud him! I think his heart is in the right place trying to protect Russian women in the workplace and I don’t find anything sexist about it! Would you rather lose your job for too many missed days or be protected under this new proposed legislation? Our legislative bodies could take a lesson from this man! Women should just tell the truth and shame the devil and accept that our periods are the most rotten part about being a woman! Yes, it allows us to give birth to future misogynist, but it can be debilitating as well! Sometimes I think women are their own worst enemy and we are too quick to shoot down genuine concern for our health. It could be because there is a history of bait and switch by our politicians when it comes to women’s issues, but have we become so jaded that we can’t see the big picture? I hope Mr. Degtyaryov’s proposal gains steam and these silly women see beyond their feminist ideals and let something good happen!

Adam Ate the Apple of His Own Free Will! STOP PUNISHING WOMEN!

So, this morning I woke up feeling like something was about to happen. I was hoping it was something good. But alas, I was disappointed because on the way to take care of my BFF, who has been ill a while, I encountered a total bast@rd holding this woman in a headlock punching her in the face! On my way to my friends, I stopped at the gas station and donut shop. I felt I was running late so I was going to go the fastest route down a major thoroughfare but something just nudged me to go the way I always do-down the back streets. I’m glad I listened to that nudge! The lady is screaming in spanish for help as he is punching her. As I pulled over and dialing 911, she managed to wiggle out from under his arms but he grabbed her again and was trying to wrestle the phone and keys out of her hand. I got out of the car to try to help her and when he saw me, he took off on foot. I was still on the phone with the 911 operator and I gave her a description of what he was wearing and the direction he was headed. She took my name and verified the number I was calling from and assured me help was on the way. So why did I have to call 911 AGAIN???? I told the second operator that he was getting away and no one had arrived! Apparently a women getting punched repeatedly in the face wasn’t a priority. When the officers finally arrived, I gave them a description and pointed to which way he went and they took off after him but didn’t find him. Then 3 more units showed up-2 female officers and 2 more males. I was informed that earlier in the morning, as she was trying to drop off her kids at school, he assaulted her there as well! She called for help and NO ONE CAME! Now, you would think when a 911 distress call comes from in or around a school, they would swarm in light of what happened at Sandy Hook Elementary! But NOOOOO!!! And YES people ABUSE has a direct correlation to what happened at Sandy Hook ( see related article below). Dallas’s finest FAILED to act and a women suffered 2 attacks in one morning! Being a victim of a violent assault, you can imagine the pain and hurt that surfaced witnessing the same thing happen to this woman. I was treated like the criminal in my assault and I feel she was handled in the same manner. While we were waiting for the police to arrive, 3 of the residents surrounding this intersection came out to help me help her. She didn’t speak much English so they helped translate and verify what I witnessed. One of the people even went and brought her some hot tea because Dallas is experiencing arctic weather this week. It made me feel better that the citizens of Dallas cared more than the people who are sworn to protect and serve! The Dallas Police Department is full of misogynistic men and complacent women who think women bring these things on themselves! But I am here to tell you that is the WRONG attitude! A lot of women do not even report their assaults because of such attitudes. It only happened to me once but that was one time too many! The heart can’t help who it becomes attracted to and no one signs up to be abused! But in our world, women aren’t built up enough to feel their worth and fight the craptastic attitudes that have permeated society since Adam and Eve! God gave us free will and no one held a gun to Adams head and told him to eat the damn apple! He did that of his own free will!!!! But women have been vilified for the fall of man since then although it was MAN’S fault they got kicked out of the garden! God didn’t just kick Eve to the curb; he kicked them both out! We have had to listen to that misogyny during a harsh election season and it is time for it to cease! The Violence Against Women Act still hasn’t been renewed! WHY? Because the misogynist won’t let it be renewed! They don’t care if it was their mother or sister or daughter because they have probably been abusive toward their own or have friends that are! What other explanation could there be? I cannot fathom what thought process these men and some women take to conclude protecting folks against abuse isn’t a good idea! The loss of life and feeling of insecurity put on these women affects generations. Women are the glue that holds a society together and if we don’t put a cap on  the glue, the elements will dry it up and things will fall apart! Do we want things to continue to fall apart? I pray for this woman that she may have peace and be able to get away from the violence and raise her children to fight against abuse! I pray for all women and children who are victims of violent crimes and the I pray for the people who perpetrate these acts of violence. I pray the cycle be broken and we don’t continue to condone such behavior! I pray the people who perpetrate these acts of violence get the mental help they need to understand the root cause of the problem. The problems start early from childhood and that needs to be addressed to stop the cycle of violence. In the meantime, we need to be diligent and help those who have fallen victim and make sure our women and children are protected! There are many petitions floating around to get attention to this issue and I have added one more!  I created a petition to The Texas State House, The Texas State Senate, Governor Rick Perry, The United States House of Representatives, The United States Senate, and President Barack Obama, which says:

“Create a registry and require those who have committed violent acts (assault of any kind including but not limited to physical, sexual, and emotional abuse) against women and children to register including those on a deferred probation status.”
Will you sign this petition? Click here:
I had no warning and the next woman who meets the man from this morning will have no warning unless something is done to change the system. Will you stand and fight with me and the thousands of other victims of a violent crime? I pray you do!